Do you ever wonder, “What is my baby thinking?” Have you considered how your baby experiences thoughts since he or she don’t think in words? It’s likely that a lot of baby-thoughts have to do with bodily sensations. In fact, your baby has an inner experience of you and of the world in which their thoughts and feelings are inseparable from the sensations of their own body.
When you touch your baby with a “listening touch” as taught in Child’Space NYC classes, you will find that you connect to your baby in a very different way than you might when drawing their attention outward to a toy or book or some other external focus. Instead you are joining them in a way that acknowledges their inner experience. To paraphrase Dr. Ruella Frank, in that moment your baby “sees you see her and feels you feels her.”
This is a powerful practice for your baby and for you. It can be an antidote to all the stimulation of modern life – as cautioned about in this article.
Like meditation, it’s not complicated – it just may be hard to remember to find time for it amidst all the distractions and tasks involved in being a new parent. But if you do make the time (and it doesn’t take much) you’ll find there’s a great reward for doing so. To begin, put away your phone, take off your apple watch, rest your hand on your baby look into their eyes and listen to what you feel. Next, tell your baby what you’re feeling, they’ll appreciate hearing about it.
“The ultimate magic of attachment is touch. And this magic enters through the skin.” —Daniel Stern